வேடந்தாங்கல் சைபீரிய பறவைகள் அல்ல ; அவை தமிழ்நாட்டுப் பறவைகள் !!

மனம் ஒப்புக் கொள்ள மறுக்கும் ஒரு சிந்தனை

ஒவ்வொரு ஆண்டும், சென்னைக்கு அருகிலுள்ள வேடந்தாங்கலுக்கு ஆயிரக்கணக்கான பறவைகள் வந்து சேரும் போது, நாம் வழக்கமாக ஒரு வார்த்தையை உபயோகிக்கிறோம்:

“சைபீரியப் பறவைகள் வந்துள்ளன.”

அது அறிவியல் போல் தோன்றும்.
உண்மை போல் கேட்கும்.
ஆனால் சில மனங்களில் —
அந்த வார்த்தை அமைதியாக எதிர்ப்பு தெரிவிக்கிறது.

ஏன்?

ஆயிரக்கணக்கான கிலோமீட்டர்கள் தாண்டி, தலைமுறை தலைமுறையாக, ஒரு உயிரினம் திரும்பி வருவதற்கு
காலநிலை மட்டும் போதுமான காரணமா?

அல்லது நாம்
பயணத்தை
பிறப்பாக
தவறாகப் புரிந்து கொண்டிருக்கிறோமா?

 
வேடந்தாங்கலின் பறவைகள்: விருந்தினர்கள் மட்டுமா?

வேடந்தாங்கலில் காணப்படும் சில பறவைகள்:


வர்ண நாரைகள் (Painted Storks)

புள்ளி அலகு பெலிக்கன்கள் (Spot-billed Pelicans)

சாம்பல் நாரைகள் (Grey Herons)

கருந்தலை இபிஸ் (Black-headed Ibises)

திறந்த அலகு நாரைகள் (Open-billed Storks)

சிறிய மற்றும் பெரிய கொக்குகள் (Egrets)

இவை:

கூட்டமாக வருகின்றன

அதே மரங்களில் கூடு கட்டுகின்றன

முட்டையிட்டு குஞ்சுகளை வளர்க்கின்றன

பின்னர் புறப்பட்டுச் செல்கின்றன

மீண்டும்… மீண்டும்… திரும்பி வருகின்றன.

ஒருமுறை அல்ல.
சில வருடங்கள் அல்ல.
நூற்றாண்டுகள் தொடர்ச்சியாக.

இத்தகைய திரும்பி வருதல்
தற்செயலானது அல்ல.
பாதுகாப்புக்கு முன்பே, நாகரீகத்துக்கு முன்பே

மனித நாகரீகம் சமீபத்தியது.
பறவைகள் பாதுகாப்புச் சட்டங்கள் அதைவிட சமீபத்தியவை.

ஆனால் பறவைகள் —
மில்லியன் ஆண்டுகளுக்கு முன்பே இருந்தவை.

மனிதன்
“சரணாலயம்” என்ற வார்த்தையை கண்டுபிடிப்பதற்கு முன்பே,
மரங்களை வெட்டாதிருப்பதை பழக்கமாக்குவதற்கு முன்பே,
கிராமங்கள் பறவைகளுடன் இணைந்து வாழ கற்றுக்கொள்வதற்கு முன்பே,

இந்தப் பறவைகள் பறந்துகொண்டிருந்தன.

அப்பொழுது ஒரு கேள்வி எழுகிறது:

மனிதன் பாதுகாக்கத் தொடங்குவதற்கு முன்,
இந்தப் பறவைகள் எங்கு சேர்ந்தவை?
“குளிர்ப் பகுதி தான் மூல இடம்” — இதில் ஒரு குறை!!

“இவை சைபீரியப் பறவைகள்;
அங்கே தான் இனப்பெருக்கம் செய்கின்றன”
என்பது வழக்கமான வாதம்.

ஆனால்:
இனப்பெருக்கம் நடக்கும் இடம்
மூல வீடு ஆகிவிடாது.

குளிர்ப் பகுதிகளில்:

நீர் உறையும்

குளிர் உயிருக்கு ஆபத்தாக மாறும்

வாழ்வதற்கான காலம் மிகக் குறைவு

ஒரு உயிரினம்
ஆண்டுதோறும் வாழ முடியாத இடம்
அதன் மூல வீடாக இருக்க முடியாது.

அந்த இடங்கள்
தற்காலிக வேலைப்பகுதிகள் போல —
நிரந்தர இல்லங்கள் அல்ல.
தென்னிந்தியா: தொடர்ச்சியான உயிர் சூழல்

தமிழ்நாடு மற்றும் தென் இந்தியப் பகுதிகள்:

பனிக்காலத்தால் அழிக்கப்படாத நிலம்

நிலையான காலநிலை

தொடர்ச்சியான நீர்நிலைகள்

ஆயிரக்கணக்கான ஆண்டுகளாக மாறாத வாழ்விடம்

இவை தற்கால நன்மைகள் அல்ல.
பரம்பரைச் சூழல்கள்.

வேடந்தாங்கல் போன்ற இடங்கள்
ஒரு நாளில் உருவானவை அல்ல.
அவை தொடர்ச்சியாக உயிரைக் காத்த இடங்கள்.

அதனால்,

இந்தப் பறவைகள் குளிரிலிருந்து தப்பித்து இங்கே வந்தவை அல்ல;
இங்கே இருந்த உயிர்,
வாய்ப்பு கிடைக்கும் போது வெளியே சென்றது
என்று கருதுவதும்
முழுமையாக சாத்தியமானதே.

 
இடம்பெயர்தல்: தப்பித்தல் அல்ல, விரிவு

நாம் இடம்பெயர்தலை
அச்சத்தால் உண்டான ஓட்டமாக பார்க்கிறோம்.

ஆனால் இன்னொரு பார்வை உள்ளது.

பண்டைய வணிகர்கள் போல:

தங்கள் சொந்த நிலத்திலிருந்து புறப்பட்டு

தூர நாடுகளை ஆராய்ந்து

அங்கே சில காலம் வாழ்ந்து

மீண்டும் தங்கள் வீட்டுக்கு திரும்பியது போல
பறவைகளும்:

பருவம் அனுமதித்தபோது வெளியே சென்றன

உயிர் கேட்டபோது உள்ளே திரும்பின!

வீடு இல்லாததால் அல்ல —
வீடு இருந்ததால்.
தாய் வீடு: உடல் நினைவில் இருக்கும் சட்டம்

இன்றைய உலகத்திலும் ஒரு உண்மை தொடர்கிறது.

வெளிநாடுகளில் வசதி, பணம், மருத்துவம் எல்லாம் இருந்தாலும்,
பல பெண்கள் குழந்தைப் பிறப்புக்காக
தங்கள் தாய் வீட்டுக்குத் தான் திரும்புகிறார்கள்.

அது:

ஏழ்மை காரணமாக அல்ல

வசதி இல்லாததால் அல்ல

பிறப்பு என்பது:

நம்பிக்கையை கேட்கும்

நம்பிக்கை பழகிய மண்ணில் தான் கிடைக்கும்

உடல் முடிவு எடுக்கும் —
மனம் காரணம் சொல்லும் பின்னர்.
பறவைகளும் அதே சட்டத்தைப் பின்பற்றுகின்றன

பறவைகளிடம்:

வரைபடம் இல்லை

கணக்கீடு இல்லை

தொழில்நுட்பம் இல்லை

ஆனால் அவை:
வழி தவறுவதில்லை
தலைமுறை தலைமுறையாக திரும்புகின்றன

இதன் அர்த்தம்:


இடம்பெயர்தல்:

காலநிலை எதிர்வினை மட்டும் அல்ல;
அது மூல நினைவின் வெளிப்பாடு.
பெயர்கள் மனிதனின் பழக்கம்; நினைவு இயற்கையின் சொத்து

“சைபீரியப் பறவை”
என்பது மனிதன் வைத்த பெயர்.

இயற்கை பெயர் வைக்காது.
இயற்கை நினைவில் வைக்கும்.

நினைவு
இறக்கைகளை விட தூரம் பயணம் செய்யும்.

முடிவுரை: ஒரு அமைதியான மறுஆலோசனை

இது அறிவியலுக்கு எதிரான கருத்தல்ல.
இடம்பெயர்தல் ஆய்வுகளை மறுக்கும் முயற்சியும் அல்ல.

இது
பார்வையை விரிவாக்கும் ஒரு முயற்சி.

ஒருவேளை:
இந்தப் பறவைகள் வெளிநாட்டு விருந்தினர்கள் அல்ல
தமிழ்நாடு அவை கண்டுபிடித்த அடைக்கலம் அல்ல

ஒருவேளை அவை:
வாழ்க்கை ஒருமுறை பாதுகாப்பாக தொடங்கிய
இடத்திற்குத்
திரும்பிக் கொண்டிருக்கின்றன.

 
இறுதி சிந்தனை:
எல்லா பயணங்களும் தப்பித்தல் அல்ல.
சில பயணங்கள் திரும்பி வருவதற்காக.

வேடந்தாங்கல்
ஒரு சரணாலயம் மட்டும் அல்ல.

அது:

அலைந்து வந்த பறவைகள் கண்ட இடம் அல்ல

நினைவில் சுமந்து வந்த வீடு

இந்தப் பறவைகள் வெளிநாட்டு அகதிகள் அல்ல.
இவை நமது சொந்த நிலத்தின் பறவைகள்.

உயிர்
ஒருமுறை எப்படி வாழ கற்றுக்கொண்டதோ,
அந்த மண்ணுக்கே
மீண்டும்… மீண்டும்…
திரும்பி வருகிறது.

-Yozen Balki

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Vedanthangal Birds Sanctuary 

Were These Birds Ever “Siberian”? Or Were They Always Children of Tamil Soil?

A reflective argument from Vedanthangal, near Chennai:

Vedanthangal Bird Sanctuary
Introduction: A Question That Refuses to Settle

Every winter, when thousands of migratory birds arrive at Vedanthangal near Chennai, a familiar phrase is repeated:

“Siberian birds have come.”

This phrase is spoken casually, confidently, and almost unquestioningly.
Yet, for some minds, the heart quietly resists accepting it.

Why?

Because something deeper than data begins to speak.

Can a living being travel thousands of kilometers, year after year, generation after generation, without an inner reason stronger than survival?
Can such relentless return be explained only by climate and food?

Or is there something we have overlooked?
The Birds of Vedanthangal: Not Just Visitors

Let us name a few of the birds that arrive at Vedanthangal:

Painted Storks

Spot-billed Pelicans

Grey Herons

Black-headed Ibises

Open-billed Storks

Little Egrets and Great Egrets

They arrive in flocks, build nests on the same trees, lay eggs, raise chicks, and leave — only to return again.

Not once.
Not twice.
But across centuries.

This behavior itself raises a quiet question:

Do creatures return like this to places that are not, in some deep sense, their own?
Before Civilization, Before Protection

Human civilization, organized protection, and wildlife laws are recent events — barely ten thousand years old.

But birds, as a lineage, are millions of years old.

Long before humans decided to protect birds,
long before villages decided not to cut nesting trees,
long before sanctuaries were named,

these birds were already flying.

So the question naturally arises:


Before humans learned to protect birds,
where did birds belong?
The Climate Argument Has a Gap

It is often said that these birds “belong” to Siberia or other cold regions because they breed there.

But breeding location alone does not define origin.

Cold regions pose a fundamental limitation:

Frozen water

Extreme winters

Limited survival of chicks beyond seasons

A place where life cannot sustain itself year-round cannot logically be the ancestral home of life.

Cold regions function like seasonal workplaces — productive for a time, hostile afterward.

If survival were the only rule, evolution would have eliminated such risky dependence long ago.

Yet birds return south.

Always south.
The South as an Ancestral Continuum

South India, particularly regions like Tamil Nadu, has remained free from glaciation for tens of thousands of years.

Stable climate

Persistent wetlands

Continuous vegetation

Predictable water systems

These are not temporary conditions.
They are ancestral conditions.

Places like Vedanthangal are not accidental refuges; they are continuities.

It is entirely plausible — even reasonable — to consider that:


These birds did not originate in the cold and flee south.
They originated in stable southern ecosystems
and expanded outward when conditions allowed.
Migration as Expansion, Not Escape.

We often imagine migration as escape from cold.

But another interpretation exists:

Migration may have begun as exploration, much like ancient human traders.

Just as merchants left their homeland, explored distant regions, stayed temporarily, and returned home — birds may have done the same.

They flew outward when seasons allowed.
They returned inward when life demanded.

Not because they were homeless —
but because they had a home.
The Mother’s Home Analogy: Biology Knows Before Logic

There is a human parallel that explains this instinct better than data ever could.

Even today, in a globalized world:

Women travel across countries, settle abroad, live comfortably, and have access to advanced healthcare.
Yet, when it comes to childbirth, many still return to their mother’s home.

Not because the foreign land lacks facilities.
Not because of poverty or limitation.

But because the body recognizes safety before the mind reasons.

Birth demands trust.
Trust demands familiarity.
Familiarity demands memory.

The body remembers what the mind forgets.
Birds and the Same Biological Law

Birds do not use passports.
They do not read maps.
They do not calculate distances.

Yet they return — unerringly.
This suggests that migration is not just a reaction to climate, but an expression of ancestral memory.
What humans call “Siberian birds” may simply be:

Birds that temporarily worked the northern world,
but never forgot their southern home.

Vedanthangal is not a destination.
It is a return point.
Naming Is a Human Habit, Not Nature’s Truth

When humans say “Siberian bird,” they are naming the last observed breeding zone, 

not the origin of belonging.

Nature does not label.
Nature remembers.

And memory is stronger than naming.
Conclusion: A Quiet Reframing

This is not a rejection of science.
Nor a denial of migration studies.

It is an invitation to widen the frame.

Perhaps these birds are not foreigners visiting Tamil Nadu.
Perhaps Tamil Nadu is not a refuge they discovered.
Perhaps they are simply returning —
as life often does —
to where it once began safely.

Not all journeys are escapes.
Some are returns.

Vedanthangal, then, is not merely a sanctuary.
It is not a destination discovered by wandering birds.

It is a remembered home —
a place carried quietly in ancestral memory,
a soil the body recognizes before the mind explains.

These are not foreign birds seeking refuge.
They are our own homeland birds,
returning — again and again —
to where life once learned how to continue.

-Yozen Balki

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Vedanthangal Birds Sanctuary 

How a Surveyor Measured a Kingdom Without a Measurement Tape: Invention of Theodolite Survey

Centuries ago, a surveyor stood at the edge of a vast lake, holding a long measurement tape in his hands.

 

In front of him stretched endless water.

 

He paused.

 

“How do I measure this?” he wondered.

 

A measurement tape could not be laid across a lake.

Walking through water would destroy accuracy.

Boats would only introduce errors.

 

Yet behind him stood a command that could not be ignored.

 

The king had ordered the work to be completed.

 

And the lake was only a small part of the problem.

 

The kingdom itself spread across hundreds of kilometres—

towering mountains, deep valleys, dense forests, dangerous animals, and lands where a human foot could barely survive.

 

Measuring such a land by walking with a tape was not just slow.

It was impossible.

 At that moment, something important happened.

 

The surveyor stopped struggling with his legs

and began thinking with his mind.

 

When the Tape Could No Longer Go Further

 

A powerful idea suddenly emerged.

 

“Do I really need to use a measurement tape everywhere?”

 

What if—

just one distance could be measured accurately?

 

What if that single real length could become the foundation?

 

He realized this:

 

If one baseline was measured carefully using a long measurement tape,

and if two angles were known, every other distance could be calculated using mathematics Pythagoras Theorem.

The tape was no longer the hero.

The mind was.

 

The First Triangle That Changed Everything

 

He began by creating a single triangle—

a triangle with one real, measured side.

Thereafter the tape was not needed at all.

 

That triangle gave scale to everything that followed.

 

Then, carrying a newly refined angle-measuring instrument,

the theodolite,

he moved only through safe and accessible locations.

 

On selected hilltops,

he constructed tall stone pillars.

 

The sharp top of each pillar became a precise reference point.

 

From one triangle, another emerged.

From that, another.

 

Soon, the land was no longer something to be walked,

in a more traverse way.

It became something to be understood.

 

Mapping a Kingdom Without Walking Through It

 

Hundreds of triangles followed.

Then thousands.

 

No need to cross lakes.

No need to enter forests filled with danger.

No need to walk through swamps or valleys.

 By measuring angles alone,

and using mathematics,

the surveyor slowly revealed the true shape of the kingdom.

 

The entire land—

its length, breadth, and boundaries—

now existed on paper.

 

All this was achieved

without stretching a measurement tape across every inch of soil.

 

The Birth of Theodolite Survey

 

What began as a struggle

became a scientific revolution.

 

This approach—

measuring one baseline,

then expanding across the land using angles and triangles—

gave birth to what we now call theodolite surveying.

 

When the surveyor finally presented the map to the king,

the king saw his kingdom clearly for the first time.

 

But what he truly held

was proof of something greater:

 

Human intelligence can replace physical hardship.

 

Conclusion:

 

The day humans realized that

a measurement tape had limits

but the human mind did not,

was the day surveying changed forever.

 

That was the moment

theodolite survey was born—

not from comfort,

but from necessity, curiosity, and courage.

- Yozen Balki

Urban Floods Are "Man-Made": A Truth the World Must Accept.

For millions of years, water has travelled across this planet through natural pathways—slopes, streams, brooks, canals, lakes, and gentle depressions shaped by the Earth itself. 

These pathways formed a perfect network through which excess rainwater moved from high ground to low ground, eventually reaching rivers and the sea. Nature designed a flawless system. Human civilization broke it.

In Tamil Nadu, we see this failure every monsoon. A few hours of moderate rain can now flood entire districts. Streets disappear under water, homes collapse, and cities freeze—not because rainfall has become extraordinary, but because the pathways that once carried water are no longer alive.

For centuries, Tamil society understood water profoundly. Our ancestors identified 47 unique types of water bodies, each crafted with a purpose and a rhythm. But modern development forgot all of them. Streams were buried, canals were encroached, lake boundaries stolen, and surplus water channels treated as empty land. Where water once flowed freely, concrete now stands arrogantly.

Urban flooding is often blamed on climate change, but the real cause lies much closer—in human greed, negligence, and ignorance. When 'poramboke' lands—streams, canals, pond areas—are illegally converted for construction, the city’s veins are cut off one by one. Water, trapped and confused, has no path but destruction.

If an individual commits theft, the law punishes them. If someone commits murder, they are arrested. 

But when someone blocks a natural water channel—and thousands suffer because of it—there is no punishment, no accountability, not even recognition of the crime. This is one of the greatest failures of modern governance.

Agriculture declined, villages emptied, and people migrated to cities. Expensive urban rent forced them toward lake-beds and canal routes. Political groups turned these encroachments into vote banks. Temporary huts became permanent homes; homes became apartments; apartments became towering blocks—all standing on the buried memories of water.

Walk just five kilometres around your home and ask yourself:
Can you find even one natural stream still flowing?

In most cities, the answer is no. We erased nature’s map and replaced it with our own confusion. We blocked the very slopes through which water silently protected us for thousands of years. Now, when rain falls, the land simply cannot breathe.

The irony is painful: the same cities that drown in monsoon beg for water in summer. Flood one month, drought the next—this is the signature of a civilization that forgot both drainage and storage. Lakes that once held water have become housing colonies; channels that once guided water have become roads; catchment areas are now parking lots. Water has nowhere to stay and nowhere to go.

And this is not only Tamil Nadu’s story. Not only India’s story.
This is the world’s story.

From New York to Beijing, Dubai to Berlin—every year we watch major cities drown in hours. Even the richest nations, with trillion-dollar technologies, stand helpless as water tears through their streets. Why? Because even they destroyed the micro-streams, the gentle slopes, the shallow depressions that nature crafted long before their skyscrapers existed.

A civilization that buries its water pathways cannot show shock when water rises to bury its cities.

It is time for governments to accept a truth they have avoided:
Urban floods are man-made.
They are the direct result of blocking natural water routes and pretending that development is simply more concrete.

Every nation must now elevate Hydrological Management to the level of a central ministry. Satellites should not exist only to spy on neighboring nations—they must map natural slopes in every five-square-kilometre zone. Water pathways must be restored scientifically, reconnected to living streams, and protected with the seriousness reserved for national security. A complete national water-route map must be placed before every Parliament and discussed as a matter of survival.

The world must face an uncomfortable truth:
Nature may tolerate our ignorance,
but it never forgives deliberate arrogance.

If we continue to choke its pathways, the floods we see today will look like harmless warnings compared to what is coming. Nature is not threatening us—it is promising us. A promise that every obstruction will be answered, every stolen waterway reclaimed, and every act of human greed paid for in full.

(Based on an original Tamil essay written by me in 2011)

And now, a final message—
not from governments,
not from science,
not from policy…

…but from Water itself.



I Am Water

A poem by Yozen Balki
______________________

I am Water.

You have stolen my pathways—
the places where I once lived.
You raised great buildings
on the land that belonged to me.

For a few years, I remain silent.
I wait.

But one day—
when the rains grow heavy,
when the floods return,
in one unexpected year—
I will come back.

Slowly…
quietly…
I will slip beneath the foundations
and will uproot every structure
you built upon my home.

And I will reclaim
what has always been mine.

For I am Water.
I do not forget
where I belonged.

- Yozen Balki

Subconscious Transformation Therapist | Social Thinker

Where Lies the Fault Psychology— In You or Your Spouse?

How Do You Evaluate Relationship?

Whenever a conflict arises between two people, how do we truly determine who is right? How do we understand where the mistake lies? Let us explore.

Whether it is

1. India–Pakistan’s Kashmir conflict,

2. Kerala–Tamil Nadu’s Mullaperiyar dispute,

or even a simple disagreement between you and me—

the principle remains the same.

Imagine this:

I am travelling in a boat with my friends. You come in another boat, and the two boats collide. A fight arises. Naturally, I will support my boatman and my friends.

And you will support your boat and your people.

This is human nature.

Immediately, two separate circles are formed.

And in this world, there will always be many such circles.

Without our invitation,

people who favour my circle will join to support me,

and people who favour your circle will join to support you.

Each side will bring their own arguments, emotions, and justifications.

So then—how will a fair solution ever emerge?

It can happen only if we find someone beyond both circles—

a neutral human being whose judgment both sides accept wholeheartedly.

Otherwise, the conflict will never be resolved.

But where do we search for such people?

Where do we find a Buddha?

A Ramakrishna Paramahamsa?

A truly impartial mind?

Even if such a person appears,

who will agree to their verdict?

Do we have real-world examples?

Look at the United Nations.

When disputes arise, does it act with pure justice?

Often, it supports whichever nation it fears or depends on.

The powerless—those without political weight—are brushed aside.

Did the world truly stand for Tamil Eelam?

Did any nation loudly condemn the injustice done to Tamils in their own homeland?

In this world, there are always people ready to twist logic, saying:

“The one who attacked is right, and the one who protected himself is wrong!”

We have seen such absurdity everywhere.

Take Saddam Hussein.

What was his “greatest mistake”?

America had other hidden interests,

but instead of admitting them,

they gave the flimsy excuse that he possessed chemical weapons.

They invaded Iraq,

destroyed the nation,

captured him, held a symbolic trial,

and executed him.

Later they casually said,

“We found no weapons.”

Not a single word of regret.

Not one apology.

Did the UN condemn America?

Did any nation declare war on America for this injustice?

No.

So when even global bodies with scholars and diplomats cannot uphold fairness consistently,

how will small organisations or ordinary individuals find perfect justice?

It becomes a beautiful illusion—nothing more.

In this world,

“The one holding the stick becomes the judge.”

Whoever gathers more people, more nations, more power—

the world fears them and often supports them,

rarely examining whether truth is actually on their side.

This is the nature of the world—

in the past, now, and forever.

Even in the Mahabharata, in the Dvapara Yuga,

Dharma itself was not standing fully.

Out of 105 warriors,

100 were on the side of adharma,

and only 5 stood for righteousness!

(What a ratio!)

Now we are in Kali Yuga.

Dharma does not even have one stable leg to stand on.

It crawls and struggles forward.

When will it finally reach the good,

the just, the righteous?

We do not know.

-Yozen Balki 

Your mind can be reset. Completely.

Have you ever wondered why life feels stuck… even when you try so hard to change?

Because the mind cannot heal itself 

from the wounds it didn’t create.

Your fears, your pain, your overthinking — none of these are your true nature.

They are just layers added by time, people, and circumstances.

And the beautiful truth is this:

Your mind can be reset. Completely.

Not by struggle.

Not by willpower.

But through the hands of someone who understands the hidden codes of your subconscious.

Just like a heart surgeon cannot operate on himself, you cannot remove your own emotional blocks.

You need a trained, experienced Psychologist who can rearrange, repair, and reset the patterns that hold you down.

And the surprising part?

Most lifelong issues start dissolving in just a few sessions.

When the right person sees your mind from the right angle...

healing becomes faster, easier, and permanent.

If your mind feels heavy, confused, tired, or exhausted…

come.

You don’t have to walk alone with that weight anymore.

Yozen Mind Center

Where clarity begins, and pain ends.

Where your life gets a second beginning.

– Yozen Balki

Senior Psychologist, Chennai

www.yozenmind.com

When the Mind Has Only 10 Bytes: Why We Fail to Listen?

Understanding the Psychology Behind Everyday Conversations

Have you ever noticed that people often listen to respond rather than listen to understand? This happens in families, workplaces, friendships and even in serious discussions. Two people may talk to each other for half an hour, yet neither may fully understand what the other person is trying to communicate.

Why does this happen?

Let us imagine a mobile phone with only 10 bytes of memory. You cannot expect it to store large files, run several applications and perform multiple tasks smoothly. Its capacity is simply too limited for those demands. Of course, the human brain is far more complex than a mobile phone, and the 10-byte comparison is only an illustration. However, it helps us understand an important aspect of human psychology: our attention has limitations.

When someone speaks to us, we may be doing several things mentally at the same time. We may be comparing their words with our past experiences, judging whether they are right or wrong, preparing our reply, or thinking about something that happened earlier. Although we appear to be listening, our attention may be divided between the speaker and our own thoughts.

Consider a simple example. A husband tells his wife about a problem at work. Before he finishes explaining, she begins suggesting solutions. He becomes irritated because he feels she has not understood him. She, meanwhile, feels that she is only trying to help. Neither person necessarily has a bad intention. The problem is that one person wants to be heard, while the other has already started trying to solve the problem.

Similar situations occur between parents and children, teachers and students, and friends who genuinely care about one another.

One important reason for this difficulty is that we interpret other people's words through our own experiences. Suppose someone tells you, "You have changed." Depending on your emotional state and past experiences, you might interpret this as criticism, disappointment or even appreciation. The words are the same, but the meaning you attach to them may be different.

This is why effective communication requires more than hearing words. We must also recognise the assumptions and emotions that influence our interpretation.

Another common problem is our eagerness to reply. While someone is speaking, we are often busy constructing our next sentence. We want to explain our position, correct a mistake, share a similar experience or prove that our understanding is better. As a result, we may miss important details in what the other person is saying.

Listening does not mean agreeing with everything we hear. We can disagree with someone and still make a genuine effort to understand their point of view.

In fact, understanding and agreement are two entirely different things. We should be able to understand an opinion without necessarily accepting it.

As a counselling psychologist, I consider this distinction important in human relationships. People sometimes become frustrated not because others disagree with them, but because they feel that nobody has made an effort to understand them. When we listen carefully, we give the other person an opportunity to explain what they actually mean instead of responding to our first interpretation.

How can we improve our listening skills?

The first step is to become aware of our own mental activity. When somebody speaks, notice whether you are concentrating on their words or preparing your response. If your attention wanders, gently bring it back to the conversation.

The second step is to avoid unnecessary interruptions. Allow the other person to complete their thoughts before expressing your opinion. A short pause before responding can prevent many misunderstandings.

The third step is to ask questions when something is unclear. Instead of assuming that you have understood, ask the person to explain further. Sometimes, a simple question can prevent an unnecessary argument.

Meditation may also help us develop greater awareness of our thoughts and attention. During meditation, we observe the mind moving from one thought to another. With regular practice, we may become more aware of these mental movements in everyday life, including during conversations. The purpose is not to eliminate thoughts completely, but to recognise when they distract us from the present moment.

There is an old saying that we have two ears and one mouth so that we should listen more and speak less. Although this is a saying rather than a scientific rule, it reminds us of an important principle: communication is not simply about expressing ourselves. It is also about making an effort to understand others.

We often spend years learning how to speak confidently, argue effectively and present our ideas convincingly. But how much time do we spend learning to listen?

Perhaps the difficulty is not that our minds literally have only 10 bytes of capacity. It is that we allow too many unrelated thoughts, assumptions and judgments to compete for our attention.

The next time somebody speaks to you, try something simple. Listen until they finish. Do not immediately judge their words or prepare your reply. First, make sure you understand what they are trying to say. You may still disagree with them, but your response will be based on a better understanding of the situation.

Good listening cannot solve every problem, but it can reduce unnecessary misunderstandings and improve the quality of our relationships.

Ultimately, the ability to listen is not merely a communication skill. It is also an expression of patience, awareness and respect for another human being.

Sometimes, the first step towards understanding another person's mind is learning to observe our own.

- Chitha Satguru

 Yozen Balki
Counselling Psychologist | Yozen Mind

How to Maintain a Good Love and Relationship (A psychological view of men, women, instincts, and lifelong harmony)

🌿 Love today is everywhere —

schools, colleges, offices, friendships, and digital spaces.

Yet breakups, divorces, emotional wounds

are higher than ever before.

Why?

Because couples understand romance,

but they do not understand human nature.

Relationships fail not because people are bad…

but because men do not understand what womanhood truly is,

and women do not understand what manhood actually means.

This misunderstanding is universal —

across countries, cultures, and generations.

🌑 1. Women seek safety — a truth older than civilization

A woman may speak of love, beauty, dreams, equality…

But deep inside her subconscious,

an ancient biological intelligence whispers:

✔️ “Find a man who can protect you.”

✔️ “Find a man who will not run away.”

✔️ “Find a man who can create a safe nest for your children.”

This is not taught.

This is not modern.

This is not cultural conditioning.

It is the cosmic design of femininity —

the universe’s way of protecting future generations.

A woman chooses not only a partner…

she chooses the father of her children.

Even if she doesn’t consciously realize it.

🌑 2. Men seek companionship — not responsibility

A man, on the other hand,

approaches relationships very differently.

Most men desire:

✔️ emotional connection

✔️ support

✔️ affection

✔️ physical closeness

✔️ a partner for the present

But they are not born with the instinct to protect a family.

Responsibility does not come naturally—

it comes only when he chooses to evolve.

This is not weakness.

It is nature.

Men love freedom.

Women love stability.

Neither is wrong.

Both are original tendencies.

But when these instincts collide,

love fractures.

🌑 3. When instincts clash, relationships collapse

A woman expects:

“Be dependable. Build a life with me.”

A man thinks:

“Don’t bind me. I only wanted closeness.”

This mismatch leads to:

• breakups

• emotional distance

• insecurity

• trust issues

• unstable marriages

• long-term loneliness

The truth is simple:

They love each other…

but they do not understand each other.

🌿 4. Unstable couples create unstable children

A relationship is not just two adults.

It is the foundation of a child’s future mind.

When partners keep changing,

when homes lack safety and continuity,

children grow with:

• insecurity

• confusion

• anger

• identity crisis

• addiction tendencies

• violent or unstable behaviour

These children, when grown up:

❗ become emotionally disturbed

❗ fall into drugs

❗ join violent groups

❗ or become abusers themselves

Not because they are evil.

But because they were born in emotional disorderliness.

Humanity collapses

when the home is unstable.

🌑 5. The real solution — choose partners based on nature, not excitement

Women must choose men who embrace responsibility.

Not charm.

Not thrill.

Not temporary affection.

But men who say:

“I will stand with you.

I will protect our future.

I will be a father worthy of our children.”

These men become

stable husbands and strong fathers.

Men must choose women who can nurture life.

Not beauty alone.

Not novelty.

Not momentary excitement.

But women who carry:

• compassion

• emotional intelligence

• stability

• the strength to guide children

• the wisdom to build a home

These women create

healthy children and healthy societies.

🌟 Conclusion: Rise above instinct, rise into responsibility

Love becomes strong

only when men and women evolve

beyond their primitive instincts.

When a woman embraces stability with grace,

and a man embraces responsibility with honour —

a new harmony is born.

Because relationships are not just personal choices…

they are celestial responsibilities

given to men and women

to build better families and better futures.

So men and women must rise to their higher roles —

to love with maturity,

to live with purpose,

and to create children who will build

a stronger, kinder society.

When love reaches this maturity,

it no longer breaks.

It becomes a lifelong partnership

of trust, strength, and shared destiny.

-Yozen Balki 

The Narcissistic Mind: The Silent Disorder Behind Their Mask

Narcissists appear bold, sharp, and confident on the outside.

But most people don’t realize one truth:

Their confidence is not real.

It is a mask.

Behind that mask lies a deep fear 

a fear of being ordinary,

a fear of being seen,

a fear of being emotionally exposed.

What looks like strength is often the shield of a frightened mind

trying to hide its inner collapse.

🌿 The Full Article (with your mask concept beautifully added)

Today, the word narcissism is thrown casually in every direction.

But true narcissism is not confidence 

it is inner disorder wearing the mask of strength.

Narcissists look powerful, charming, and superior.

Yet behind that appearance lies:

• insecurity

• emotional fragility

• fear of rejection

• fear of inadequacy

• fear of losing control

Their arrogance is not pride 

it is protection.

Many narcissists live in a constant psychological tension:

they project the image of a warrior…

but inside, they tremble like children

afraid of being unmasked.

🌿 1. Narcissism is not self-love, it is self-escape

A narcissist cannot face their truth.

So they escape into a character:

“I am perfect.

I am always right.

I cannot be questioned.”

This mask hides a mind drowning in disorderliness.

🌿 2. Narcissistic behaviour is fear wearing confidence

Every manipulation, every lie, every emotional attack

comes from fear 

fear of losing attention,

fear of emotional exposure,

fear of being insignificant.

Their confidence is a costume,

not a character.

🌿 3. Disorder is celebrated as personality today

The Truth is:

Disease = Disorderliness

Mental Health = Orderliness

Society today glorifies disorder:

• manipulation becomes “cleverness”

• aggression becomes “dominance”

• selfishness becomes “self-love”

• arrogance becomes “attitude”

This world celebrates masks,

not minds.

🌿 4. Understanding is not blaming

Understanding narcissism is not about blaming people

or labelling their struggles with strange, complicated names.

It is about recognizing the silent collapse behind their mask 

a collapse they themselves cannot understand.

🌿 5. Healing begins only when order returns

A narcissist heals not when they are exposed,

but when they are willing to face their inner disorder.

Healing is simply this:

Returning the mind to orderliness.

• emotional clarity

• inner balance

• empathy

• responsibility

• truthfulness

Only then does the mask fall.

And only then can change begin.

🌟 Conclusion

The world can create thousands of names for disorders…

but every disorder begins with one thing:

A mind that has lost its order.

Seeing through someone’s mask

is not cruelty —

it is wisdom.

Only when you understand their silent collapse

can you protect yourself,

and guide them —

if they are willing —

towards inner orderliness.

-Yozen Balki 

Why the Mind Breaks: The Silent Burden We Carry...

Every human being carries a weight that no one else can see.

Not the weight of responsibilities,

not the weight of failures,

not even the weight of expectations…

The real weight is the unspoken emotions inside us.

People break not because life is hard,

but because they keep everything inside—

the fear,

the guilt,

the loneliness,

the disappointments,

the silent pain they cannot share with anyone.

In reality,

the mind does not collapse in one day.

It collapses slowly…

quietly…

layer by layer.

1. The weight of pretending

Most people spend half their life pretending to be strong.

They say “I’m okay” even when they are drowning inside.

Every “I’m fine” is a lie the mind pays for later.

2. The wounds we never speak about

A hurt feeling that was not expressed becomes a psychological scar.

A scar that grows with time,

and becomes a personality change—

suddenly we become angry,

or numb,

or withdrawn,

without understanding why.

3. The mind breaks when silence becomes a punishment

Silence is beautiful only when the heart is peaceful.

When silence comes from fear,

or loneliness,

or emotional abandonment,

it becomes poison.

4. Healing starts with one truth

The mind heals when we stop pretending.

When we give ourselves permission to:

• cry

• rest

• admit pain

• accept humanity

• speak honestly

• seek help

• and forgive ourselves

5. You don’t need strength all the time

Real strength is not in being unbreakable.

Real strength is in knowing when you need support

and giving your heart the space to breathe.

Because even the strongest minds break.

And even the broken mind can heal —

when it is seen, understood,

and given compassion.

Conclusion:

Every human walking on this planet is carrying a story.

A silent story that shaped them.

We may never fully know what someone has survived…

But we can always choose kindness

because kindness is the medicine

that heals wounds we never see.