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புதன், 3 டிசம்பர், 2025

How to Maintain a Good Love and Relationship (A psychological view of men, women, instincts, and lifelong harmony)

🌿 Love today is everywhere —
schools, colleges, offices, friendships, and digital spaces.
Yet breakups, divorces, emotional wounds
are higher than ever before.

Why?

Because couples understand romance,
but they do not understand human nature.

Relationships fail not because people are bad…
but because men do not understand what womanhood truly is,
and women do not understand what manhood actually means.

This misunderstanding is universal —
across countries, cultures, and generations.


🌑 1. Women seek safety — a truth older than civilization

A woman may speak of love, beauty, dreams, equality…
But deep inside her subconscious,
an ancient biological intelligence whispers:

✔️ “Find a man who can protect you.”
✔️ “Find a man who will not run away.”
✔️ “Find a man who can create a safe nest for your children.”

This is not taught.
This is not modern.
This is not cultural conditioning.

It is the cosmic design of femininity —
the universe’s way of protecting future generations.

A woman chooses not only a partner…
she chooses the father of her children.
Even if she doesn’t consciously realize it.


🌑 2. Men seek companionship — not responsibility

A man, on the other hand,
approaches relationships very differently.

Most men desire:
✔️ emotional connection
✔️ support
✔️ affection
✔️ physical closeness
✔️ a partner for the present

But they are not born with the instinct to protect a family.
Responsibility does not come naturally—
it comes only when he chooses to evolve.

This is not weakness.
It is nature.

Men love freedom.
Women love stability.

Neither is wrong.
Both are original tendencies.

But when these instincts collide,
love fractures.


🌑 3. When instincts clash, relationships collapse

A woman expects:
“Be dependable. Build a life with me.”

A man thinks:
“Don’t bind me. I only wanted closeness.”

This mismatch leads to:

• breakups
• emotional distance
• insecurity
• trust issues
• unstable marriages
• long-term loneliness

The truth is simple:

They love each other…
but they do not understand each other.


🌿 4. Unstable couples create unstable children

A relationship is not just two adults.
It is the foundation of a child’s future mind.

When partners keep changing,
when homes lack safety and continuity,
children grow with:

• insecurity
• confusion
• anger
• identity crisis
• addiction tendencies
• violent or unstable behaviour

These children, when grown up:

❗ become emotionally disturbed
❗ fall into drugs
❗ join violent groups
❗ or become abusers themselves

Not because they are evil.
But because they were born in emotional disorderliness.

Humanity collapses
when the home is unstable.


🌑 5. The real solution — choose partners based on nature, not excitement

Women must choose men who embrace responsibility.

Not charm.
Not thrill.
Not temporary affection.

But men who say:
“I will stand with you.
I will protect our future.
I will be a father worthy of our children.”

These men become
stable husbands and strong fathers.

Men must choose women who can nurture life.

Not beauty alone.
Not novelty.
Not momentary excitement.

But women who carry:

• compassion
• emotional intelligence
• stability
• the strength to guide children
• the wisdom to build a home

These women create
healthy children and healthy societies.


🌟 Conclusion: Rise above instinct, rise into responsibility

Love becomes strong
only when men and women evolve
beyond their primitive instincts.

When a woman embraces stability with grace,
and a man embraces responsibility with honour —
a new harmony is born.

Because relationships are not just personal choices…
they are celestial responsibilities
given to men and women
to build better families and better futures.

So men and women must rise to their higher roles —
to love with maturity,
to live with purpose,
and to create children who will build
a stronger, kinder society.

When love reaches this maturity,
it no longer breaks.
It becomes a lifelong partnership
of trust, strength, and shared destiny.

-Yozen Balki 

The Narcissistic Mind: The Silent Disorder Behind Their Mask

Narcissists appear bold, sharp, and confident on the outside.
But most people don’t realize one truth:

Their confidence is not real.
It is a mask.

Behind that mask lies a deep fear —
a fear of being ordinary,
a fear of being seen,
a fear of being emotionally exposed.

What looks like strength is often the shield of a frightened mind
trying to hide its inner collapse.

🌿 The Full Article (with your mask concept beautifully added)

Today, the word narcissism is thrown casually in every direction.
But true narcissism is not confidence —
it is inner disorder wearing the mask of strength.

Narcissists look powerful, charming, and superior.
Yet behind that appearance lies:

• insecurity
• emotional fragility
• fear of rejection
• fear of inadequacy
• fear of losing control

Their arrogance is not pride —
it is protection.

Many narcissists live in a constant psychological tension:
they project the image of a warrior…
but inside, they tremble like children
afraid of being unmasked.

🌿 1. Narcissism is not self-love — it is self-escape

A narcissist cannot face their truth.
So they escape into a character:

“I am perfect.
I am always right.
I cannot be questioned.”

This mask hides a mind drowning in disorderliness.

🌿 2. Narcissistic behaviour is fear wearing confidence

Every manipulation, every lie, every emotional attack
comes from fear —
fear of losing attention,
fear of emotional exposure,
fear of being insignificant.

Their confidence is a costume,
not a character.

🌿 3. Disorder is celebrated as personality today

The Truth is:

Disease = Disorderliness
Mental Health = Orderliness

Society today glorifies disorder:

• manipulation becomes “cleverness”
• aggression becomes “dominance”
• selfishness becomes “self-love”
• arrogance becomes “attitude”

This world celebrates masks,
not minds.

🌿 4. Understanding is not blaming

Understanding narcissism is not about blaming people
or labelling their struggles with strange, complicated names.

It is about recognizing the silent collapse behind their mask —
a collapse they themselves cannot understand.

🌿 5. Healing begins only when order returns

A narcissist heals not when they are exposed,
but when they are willing to face their inner disorder.

Healing is simply this:

Returning the mind to orderliness.

• emotional clarity
• inner balance
• empathy
• responsibility
• truthfulness

Only then does the mask fall.
And only then can change begin.

🌟 Conclusion

The world can create thousands of names for disorders…
but every disorder begins with one thing:
A mind that has lost its order.

Seeing through someone’s mask
is not cruelty —
it is wisdom.

Only when you understand their silent collapse
can you protect yourself,
and guide them —
if they are willing —
towards inner orderliness.

-Yozen Balki